6 Questions I Had as a New Mom in Year 1

Looking back at the past year and a half of being a new mom, I have experienced many firsts and have come to realize that there will always be something to experience for the first time as a parent. And with that comes questions. Lots of questions.

As Rylee’s second birthday is quickly approaching, I have been thinking back to all of the questions I had as a new mom and the advice I would give to those who have the same questions, now that I have some experience.

Here are the top 6 questions that came to mind. And after reading through, enter into my giveaway for a chance to win a $25 Visa Gift Card!

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I knew as soon as I was pregnant that I wanted to breastfeed my daughter. I was able to do so for 6 months, but it was definitely hard for me at times.

Between getting Mastitis (Which was its own question – “What in the world is Mastitis?!”) going back to work and trying to pump to produce enough for full feedings, and getting Rylee to latch correctly without tremendous pain were all a part of my experience. You can read more about my Postpartum Rant and struggles with breastfeeding in the post I wrote shortly after hearing I was diagnosed with Mastitis.

My Advice: 

Throughout my time breastfeeding, and especially when I wasn’t producing as much as I knew Rylee needed, I just kept telling myself that a little bit is still better than nothing, and that is what kept me going throughout the entire 6 months. My biggest piece of advice for those who choose to breastfeed their babies, is to do as much as you can and don’t stress over it or compare yourself to other moms if it’s not going as well as you had hoped or planned for. If you end up having difficulties, continue to do the best you can and don’t beat yourself up over it or feel like a failure, because everyone is different. You should be proud of yourself no matter what. Your a momma and you brought a beautiful life into this world! Plus, formula is not as bad as everyone says it is and it’s a great option for moms who have trouble breastfeeding. Which leads into my next question.

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At my daughter’s first ever check-up, we found out that she was not getting the nutrition she needed from breastfeeding alone and that she was losing too much weight. This was heartbreaking for me to hear as a mother.

Well, at that very appointment, my doctor pulled out one of those “dreaded” bottles of formula and fed it to her right there. She slugged that bottle down in an instant, and that is when I realized that her getting the nutrition and nourishment that she needed to grow was more important than how she was getting it.

This is definitely not an unpopular question to have as a new mom. Actually, a nationwide survey of pediatricians, the “Pulse of Pediatricians” looked at the most common questions new moms will ask and found that feeding questions were the number one topic moms asked about. Other than poop and sleep questions, of course.

My Advice: 

Many people have opinions about formula vs. breast milk and they are not afraid to vocalize them. My advice is to ignore what others think and do what is best for your baby.

Feeding my baby formula to help supplement breastfeeding was one of the best decisions we made. It gave me a break when I needed it most and gave Brett the opportunity to bond with Rylee.

And you don’t have to feel afraid about the quality of baby formula out there.

The American Academy of Pediatrics and other experts agree on the benefits of breastfeeding, but these experts also agree that infant formula is a safe and nutritious means to nourish babies.

And what most moms don’t know is that the FDA strictly regulates formula to keep little ones safe. Even store brand formulas, like Wal-Mart’s Parent’s Choice and Target’s Up & Up, are nutritionally comparable to national brands like Enfamil® and Similac® and meet FDA standards.

I wrote an entire post about using these store brand formula products and the money we saved as a family using them in my post, How to Effortlessly Save Money as a Busy Mom. Did you know that the cost of store-brand formula is half the price of the major brands? That is a huge savings! (Quick Tip: You can visit http://www.storebrandformula.com for more information and formula coupons!)

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I didn’t know at the time how important it was for Rylee to have regular tummy time and to start early. Especially with doctors telling you now days to lay your baby on their backs while sleeping and the fact that swings and bouncers keep babies on their backs, they need it in order to prevent “flat heads.” We actually found out we weren’t giving Rylee enough tummy time at around 4-5 months and the doctor told us her head was a little flat! He was concerned, but we didn’t know that she could have been doing more tummy time when she was that little! We had to massage her head to try and round it out in order to avoid her wearing one of those helmets! It was a little scary!

My Advice: 

Babies might seem so fragile when they are that little and you want to make sure that they are always comfortable. But you would be surprised at what they can do! My advice is to start out as early as possible with tummy time. Lay your little one on the mat and test out their strength. Just make sure that you are nearby to supervise your precious little one.

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After I had Rylee I could not wait to be the best mom that I could be to her when we got her home. I thought that 6 weeks off for maternity leave was not long at all, so I would have to spend as much time with her as possible. And good moms don’t “want to get away” from their babies… do they? And that’s when the guilt starts to sink in. It wasn’t until Brett told me that is it OK to go out and continue to do the things I love. Just because I have a baby now doesn’t mean that I can’t and I shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to, either.

My Advice:

I was so thankful that Brett made this clear for me. And after experiencing how great it felt to get out and have some alone time, I realized how important this was in order for me to be the best mom I could be. Taking the time to enjoy the things I love doing made me happy. And a happy mom is a good mom. It also really helped me to appreciate Brett as a partner in this whole parenting thing, too.

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Everyone says it. There is so much stuff out there for babies now that it makes it hard for you as a new parent to know what the essentials are! Rylee has so many toys now, and it is funny to think that she would rather play with the pots and pans than the awesome drum set kit she got for her birthday.

My Advice:

Every baby is different, I know. And you’ll have to learn for yourself what works best for your little one. But as a starting point, I do have a list of some of my favorite baby items that made Rylee (and myself) happy throughout her first 6 months. Check out this post, 5 Baby Things That I Could Not Live Without, to read more.

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This one can definitely be a challenge for any new parent going back to work. There are many options to choose from — a daycare, a nanny or family willing to babysit. In our case, daycare was the best option and we could not be happier with our decision.

My Advice:

If you are looking for a daycare to bring your little one when you are getting ready to go back to work, here are some of my tips for finding the perfect one:

  1. Start your search as early as possible. We started late and all of the ones we thought we wanted were booked solid. Day cares book up fast and if you want a space at your daycare of choice, I suggest you start looking as soon as possible and hold a spot for your little one so you are prepared and ready to go back to work when the time comes.
  2. Choose a daycare close to home. I originally thought that I wanted Rylee’s daycare to be closer to my work so that I could visit her and breastfeed her when I was still doing so (typical new momma thinking). All the daycares that we looked at near my work were completely full with no openings in sight and so we started looking closer to our home. I am so happy with our choice. Now I am not soley responsible for dropping her off and picking her up and Brett can share that responsibility with me. Also, she doesn’t have to endure a 20-30 minute ride in the car to and from work AND I can make it to the gym after work on select nights without having to get her first.
  3. Find one with a great camera system. There are a lot of things I like about our school, but one of my favorites is the camera system they have set up so that I can watch her at work. I really feel like I know what she is up to during the day and don’t feel like I am missing out on too much while I am working.

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Thank you so much for stopping by and reading my post! I hope you were able to find some good advice to take a long with you!

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36 Comments on 6 Questions I Had as a New Mom in Year 1

  1. Lenore Meyers
    October 24, 2014 at 12:43 pm (3 years ago)

    Well said! I agree.

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    • Jane
      October 24, 2014 at 4:34 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Emerald! Please do! Glad to help! :)

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    • Jane
      October 24, 2014 at 4:35 pm (3 years ago)

      Thanks Danielle! Anytime, anytime!

      Reply
  2. HS
    October 24, 2014 at 9:17 pm (3 years ago)

    I enjoy reading your advices, great ones! Wish we had known these sooner. We spent some time figuring out when to start solid food and if we should breastfeeding or went with formula with first baby.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:23 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks for reading! That’s definitely a popular question for new parents!

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  3. Mary Happymommy
    October 25, 2014 at 8:52 am (3 years ago)

    When my son was born, I was concerned about his skin. He had eczema and cradle cap.

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    • Mary Happymommy
      October 27, 2014 at 7:51 am (3 years ago)

      I mean to stay “concerned” not considered.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:25 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks for your comment, Mary! Definitely another new mom question! Rylee had a little cradle cap too, and our doctor told us to brush/massage her scalp with baby oil. It only lasted a few months.

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  4. Rebecca Scaglione
    October 25, 2014 at 2:01 pm (3 years ago)

    Good advice! With tummy time, some people advocate starting it ASAP, with newborns, just for a few minutes and of course highly supervised. One suggestion was to do some tummy time on someone’s lap, too, if the baby wasn’t a huge fan at first.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:26 am (3 years ago)

      Definitely agree, Rebecca! Wish I would have known to start earlier, but now I do for baby #2! :)

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  5. Lisa
    October 25, 2014 at 7:23 pm (3 years ago)

    Everyone keeps telling me the importance of keeping babies on a schedule…but I want to know how to realistically accomplish that. Do I wake up a sleeping baby? Some people tell me I should but…yikes!

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:27 am (3 years ago)

      Yes, sleep questions are definitely popular among new moms! I tried the strict scheduling thing at one point, but it just didn’t work for us. We let Rylee sleep as long as she wanted. I don’t know if that has anything to do with her sleep habits now, but she LOVES to sleep. I have to wake HER up in the mornings to take her to school!

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  6. Katie Fenters
    October 26, 2014 at 12:47 am (3 years ago)

    I am due with my second little girl on November 24th. I tried breastfeeding my first daughter 2 years ago when she was born and had so many health complications with me that I was unable too. I felt so guilty for not being able to breast feed and hated that I missed out on that bonding and experience with her. It took me a long time to accept that formula was the way I was going to have to go with her. This time around I am hoping to be able to breastfeed and pump, but I know also that if I can’t I will be more open to using formula because it ended up being ok for my first daughter.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:30 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks for your comment, Katie! I know that it can be hard but the best that you can do is try and that is still something to be proud of. I am definitely not against formula feeding as long as my baby is getting the nutrition that she needs. Thanks for sharing!!

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  7. Lisa Brown
    October 26, 2014 at 8:07 am (3 years ago)

    Finding a place for baby for daycare is a definite concern; it’s so important to be sure you baby will be taken care of with love and care.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:31 am (3 years ago)

      Definitely agree, Lisa! Makes going back to work so much easier!

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  8. steve weber
    October 26, 2014 at 5:59 pm (3 years ago)

    I always wondered if my baby was eating enough.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:31 am (3 years ago)

      Hi Steve! Definitely! After hearing Rylee wasn’t getting enough to eat that was a huge concern of mine for a long time! Thanks for sharing!

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  9. Emily Smith
    October 26, 2014 at 7:46 pm (3 years ago)

    I was always worried about my sons spitting up. Come to find out one had acid reflux and the other needed surgery on his stomach.

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:32 am (3 years ago)

      Wow, Emily! Thanks for sharing. That is a perfect example that shows how everyone is different. I hope your babies are strong and healthy today!

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  10. Virginia @thatbaldchick
    October 26, 2014 at 9:13 pm (3 years ago)

    Wow, I had so many questions as a new parent. I, too, felt guilty for not breastfeeding my son. I’m in that rare 2% that literally can’t lactate, and it was really hard for me to accept.
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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:36 am (3 years ago)

      Thanks for sharing, Virginia! That is definitely hard to hear that as a mother. But there’s no reason to feel guilty! Our babies will still get the nutrition they need from formula. :)

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 11:37 am (3 years ago)

      Hi Joanna! Yes, definitely! A good doctor who is willing to take calls from a nervous mother is ALWAYS a good thing! Thanks for sharing!

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  11. Rosie
    October 27, 2014 at 2:15 pm (3 years ago)

    I’m not surprised at the results of the “Pulse of Pediatricians” because even adults have tons of questions about nutrition and diet, so why not infants. I’m sure it can be hard for a new mom who had romanticized breastfeeding, understandably, to find out the baby needs formula, too!

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    • Jane
      October 27, 2014 at 4:59 pm (3 years ago)

      Hi Rosie! That is a really interesting way to view this! Thanks for commenting!

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  12. Carolsue
    October 29, 2014 at 3:26 am (3 years ago)

    I did not breastfeed, so I am glad they said that is perfectly fine for the baby also
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    • Jane
      November 3, 2014 at 1:28 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Carolsue!

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  13. Deb Moretti
    November 2, 2014 at 11:10 pm (3 years ago)

    I was so concerned about his reflux. It was really hard and he didn’t sleep much. I wish there was a support group for answers back then.

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  14. Lizzy Bouchelle
    November 3, 2014 at 1:33 pm (3 years ago)

    I really enjoy reading your posts. I will be sure to save this one and reference it when my baby arrives in FEB 2015. <3

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  15. Amanda Sakovitz
    November 3, 2014 at 10:05 pm (3 years ago)

    I always wondered when I should switch over to solids.

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  16. Thomas Murphy
    November 3, 2014 at 10:43 pm (3 years ago)

    I had questions about how much and how ofter I should feed my baby.

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